5 Things / The Wrong Game
I was near the top of my game when I stopped planning weddings. I stopped because I didn't recognize myself anymore.
I started as an activist wedding planner — advocating for LGBTQ+ couples in a super-straight industry. That felt like purpose. Then, somewhere in the fog of six-figure weddings and bride/groom-zillas, I lost it. I was curating wasteful, pricey accessories and felt shallow and inauthentic. I could tell you some stories…but the bottom line is the work stopped aligning with my values.
I was good at the job. I had the reputation, the speaking invitations, the referrals. And I burned it all down.
That's when the real work began.
You can be at the top of your game and still be in the wrong game. I know this now, but it was brutal to work through.
When's the last time you checked whether your work still aligns with what actually matters to you?
I’m cheering you on-
Bernadette
This Week's Good Vibes:
Students turn Wikipedia into resistance
UC Berkeley students, led by Professor Juana María Rodríguez, have made over 300k Wikipedia edits, adding more than 3k citations and generating 96 million+ views on LGBTQ+ history pages. Instead of final papers, students research and publish entries on queer people of color, global movements, and underrepresented subcultures. Wikipedia is one of the most visited information sources in the world, yet it reflects systemic bias in who gets documented. ♐️ Treat knowledge creation as equity work, not just academic output.
New York drops credit check barrier
New York State now bans employers from using credit history in hiring, promotions, pay, and job assignments, with limited exceptions. The law broadly covers credit scores, late payments, bankruptcies, and liens. Credit checks have quietly filtered out qualified candidates, especially those impacted by systemic financial inequities. This is a binding policy change that shifts hiring toward skills, not past financial hardship. It also sets a precedent that other states can follow. ♐️ Audit hiring criteria and remove barriers that are not job-related.
A Singapore agency created an adaptive T-shirt designed with magnetic closures, side openings, and flexible seams to support people with limited mobility, sensory sensitivities, and diverse body shapes. The campaign featured real wearers and highlighted how standard clothing can exclude through rigid sizing and inaccessible fastenings. Most fashion still assumes one “default” body and ability. ♐️ Start with who is left out, then design from there.
Lego builds access brick by brick
LEGO introduced audio instructions and braille-compatible guides through its digital platforms so people who are blind or have low vision can build sets independently. The instructions include step-by-step narration, screen reader compatibility, and tactile-friendly sequencing, removing reliance on visual manuals. Play should not depend on sight. This shifts LEGO from a visual-first product to a more inclusive experience without changing the bricks themselves. ♐️ Build accessibility into instructions, not just the product.
History finally includes disability
A new disability history museum will feature interactive exhibits, archival collections, and storytelling on key policy milestones like the ADA, alongside lived experiences and activism. The space is designed to center voices historically excluded from museums, with plans for educational programming and community partnerships. Why it matters: disability history is often erased or minimized, reinforcing bias about who contributes to society. This creates a permanent space for recognition and learning. ♐️ Invest in storytelling that reflects the full community.
Good Vibe to Go:
For some hilarious feel-good TV, watch Jury Duty Presents: Company Retreat on Amazon Prime. Watch to the end. Truly delightful!