What to Do When a Co-Worker Comes Out to You
When a co-worker comes out to you, it’s a moment of trust. It means they feel comfortable enough with you to share something personal. So, how do you respond in a way that’s supportive, respectful, and empowering? Let’s dive in.
Why Coming Out Matters:
Coming out is a significant, often vulnerable moment. When someone shares their LGBTQ+ identity with you, they’re trusting you to respect their journey and treat them with dignity. It’s an important moment to reaffirm that their identity is valid, and they’re seen and supported.
Respecting Privacy:
First things first: respect their boundaries. Don’t ask intrusive questions unless they offer the information. They might be ready to share some details but not others. Let them lead the conversation and only ask if they invite you to do so.
What to Say (and What Not to Say):
Here’s the key: listen, acknowledge, and affirm. A simple “Thank you for trusting me” or “I’m so glad you shared that with me” goes a long way. Avoid saying things like, “I knew!” or “How long have you known?” These can feel dismissive and intrusive.
What to Do Next:
Be mindful of how you speak about them in the future. Always use their preferred name and pronouns. If you mess up, apologize briefly, correct yourself, and move on. This will show you’re genuinely committed to being respectful.
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