Pronouns in the Workplace: What You Need to Know and How to Use Them Correctly
Pronouns might seem like a small thing, but they matter—big time. For the LGBTQ+ community, pronouns are a way to affirm identity, and when we get them right, we create a workplace that feels safe, inclusive, and respectful. But when we get them wrong, it can create discomfort or even harm.
So, let’s make sure we’re getting it right. Here’s what you need to know:
Why Pronouns Matter:
Pronouns are essential because they reflect how someone identifies. Using the correct pronouns shows respect for their identity and helps build trust. When you consistently use someone’s correct pronouns, you contribute to creating a culture of inclusivity. It’s that simple.
The Basics of Pronouns:
Here are the basics:
He/Him/His – Typically used for men.
She/Her/Hers – Typically used for women.
They/Them/Theirs – A gender-neutral pronoun used for nonbinary individuals.
There are also other pronouns like ze/zir or xe/xem, and while they’re less common, they’re just as important. The key? Ask, respect, and use them.
How to Ask About Pronouns:
The best way to start is by normalizing pronouns in your workplace. You can ask, “What pronouns do you use?” But here’s the trick: always lead by example. Introduce yourself with your pronouns first: “Hi, I’m Bernadette, and my pronouns are she/her.” This opens the door for others to share theirs without pressure.
What to Do If You Make a Mistake:
You might mess up. We all do. If you misgender someone, simply apologize and move on. No need for a big, drawn-out apology. Just correct it and keep the conversation going.
By creating an environment where everyone can share their pronouns without hesitation, you’re fostering respect, trust, and inclusion in your workplace.
Ready to assess how inclusive your organization really is?